Untie that soul tie

21 Jul Untie that soul tie

1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 306 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. #MrMrsBetterHalf is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God’s Word.
2. Last time, we discussed the topic: “Soul Ties: Dealing with Negative Emotional Connections” Missed it? Catch up here https://wke.lt/w/s/FR3fiJ #MrMrsBetterHalf.
3. Today we’re discussing “Untie that Soul Tie” and it is a continuation of our last discussion. I encourage you to read that first for context and better understanding. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. A soul tie is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with someone else. Soul ties are not spiritual. Emotional bonds can lead to spiritual bonds but they are not of themselves spiritual. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. Contrary to popular opinion, soul ties are not only formed via sexual intercourse. Yes, sex is possibly one of the easier ways to establish a soul tie, but it is definitely not the only way. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. Soul ties can also be formed through close friendships, vows, commitments, shared experiences, hero worship, etc. Soul ties (emotional bonds) can be either positive or negative. So a soul tie can be a very good and desirable thing. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. If you’ve realized that you have an unhealthy soul tie with whoever- your partner (spouse, boy/girlfriend) or someone else what do you do? First admit it to yourself and confess the sin to God. ‘Wait’, you may ask, ‘Why is having a negative soul tie a sin?’ #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. Jesus said the entire law hinges on the perfect law of love. “Love the lord your God with all your heart, soul & might…” A negative soul tie is a sin because it esteems that person higher than God and forces you to go against God’s will. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. So confess that sin, tell God you’re sorry and that you do not want to do it again and ask for His help. God forgives you the moment you ask, so remember to also forgive yourself. Don’t beat yourself up or drown in self-pity. #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. Next, you must take steps to put the object of your soul tie in his/her proper place. If you are single, this means something painful but simple: break up. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. It seems simpler for a single person to break a soul tie because a marriage covenant has not yet been established. However I know simpler does not mean less painful. You will need help to make and stick to the decision. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. Get some good friends/counselors who know you and who support your decision to be there for you and prop you up. I assure you that it may be painful now but you will be very thankful in the future. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. Specifically, if you’re sleeping with someone and can’t seem to stop and he/she seems to have power over you, RUN. Don’t try to rationalize it or feel you can work through it… Run. Nobody bargains with fire; it will consume you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. Note that time doesn’t necessarily dissolve a soul tie. You must pray about it and ask God to help you severe it. I know some people who reconnected with their exes on Facebook years after they broke up. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. They thought they were just being friendly…after all, their past was behind them and they were both married. Before they knew it, old sparks were rekindled. Some were smart enough to flee before it got out of hand. Others are still paying the price today. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. My point is that it is better to be safe than sorry. God knows our frailty, especially when it comes to sexuality, so flee every appearance of evil. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. If you’re married and your tie to your spouse is unhealthy, you may require more of a mental adjustment than a physical one – except in cases of domestic violence. If your life is threatened, find the courage to remove yourself & your children from harm’s way. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. Victims of domestic abuse shouldn’t return to their spouses until real steps have been taken to forestall reoccurrence. The violent spouse must have undergone some sort of counseling and have good accountability structures in place. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. If your spouse refuses to change but rather threatens to divorce you, let him or her do as they desire. God hates divorce, but He loves you more than He hates it. Better to be alive & separated than married & murdered. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. Now if you are the controlling spouse, i.e. you are excessively jealous or protective about your spouse, you need to ask yourself some hard questions. Why are you so insecure about your spouse? Is it trust? Jealousy? Has your spouse given you reason to mistrust him/her? #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. And even if the answer is yes, how should you react? You cannot cage/trap your spouse into loving you. The more you hold on, the more they’ll slip away. Being controlling forces your spouse to keep secrets and opens the door for the things you actually fear. #MrMrsBetterHalf
22. Trust is the best gift you can give your spouse. So let go. Let your spouse willingly respond to your love. Very important: when you have either removed yourself from the soul tie or you have drawn the line between you, ensure you fill that vacuum. #MrMrsBetterHalf
23. Many times, single people go back to their soul ties because they feel lonely and vulnerable afterwards. When you break up, fill that vacuum with meaningful activity that will repair your heart and occupy your mind. #MrMrsBetterHalf
24. Take a course, try a new hobby, enroll in a bible school, join an active charity group etc. This also applies to couples. Don’t leave yourself vacant and idle or you’ll fall back into the old cycle. #MrMrsBetterHalf
25. Finally, it is pointless to keep cutting branches if we don’t cut the root of the matter. Why did you get soul tied? What pushed you to make that unhealthy connection? #MrMrsBetterHalf
26. Why do some women attract only men who abuse them? Why do they go from one batterer to the other? A new husband won’t fix your problem. You have to fix you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
27. Why is it that though you hate cheating on your wife, you keep encountering and falling for seductresses? A new job/house/vacation or even a new wife won’t fix your problem. You have to fix you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
28. When you are emotionally damaged, the devil knows your weakness and will continually throw it in your path. So what is it that has you emotionally wrecked? You must get healed of that situation and break its hold over you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
29. Do you have abandonment issues, low self-esteem, were you abused or ill-treated? Has your experience in life made you insecure and suspicious? No matter your past, I am here to tell you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made! #MrMrsBetterHalf
30. God wants the absolute best for you! You are entitled to the best a good marriage and relationship has to offer! It has nothing to do with you being deserving of this, but everything to do with God paying the price for you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
31. I implore you to seek counsel from a counselor or Christian minister who can help you on the road to healing. I trust God with you that you will be totally healed and free of the hold of this and any other soul ties in Jesus name. #MrMrsBetterHalf
32. I hope this has been a blessing to you. I’ll be back next week with a new topic. Till then, thanks for following, participating and RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet! #MrMrsBetterHalf